Monday, October 6, 2008

Does calling a person a douche make me a bad feminist?

IDK, perhaps.

The original meaning of "douchebag" is so outdated, I don't really know why anyone would be offended by it. I ain't. Is it so bad to call someone the thing that olde time folks used to wash their vajayjays with?

I remember one of the facilitators at the young feminists' convention back in August brought this up. You'd think she's some srsbsns older lady, but she was actually a twenty-three year old, fifth year Women's and Gender Studies student. You'd think someone that young wouldn't like, gripe over the using of "douche" in a negative connotation, but no, she really did.

For a while, I was kind of careful about using that word. Eventfully enough though, I saw the word today, from the pen of another young feminist, twenty-seven year old Jessica Valenti (of Feministing) in her book, He's a Stud, She's a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know (phew). Let me tell you something, her mouth is foul. That's an excellent quality for angry young women to have.

Some of the insults, I can definitely understand why women would be upset at. Words like, "pansy", "chick", "Mary", "pussy", all suggest being a women, or being feminine is inferior, a unwanted quality. Ironically though, society expects so much more from women. Amidst the seas of expectations, the tremendous amount of things we do are always, ALWAYS, taken for granted. Things like, giving birth, or taking care of kids, are traditionally female things to do (hell, can the first one be any otherwise?), and as soon as we choose not to do it, we're selfish cold bitches who care for nothing except our own asses.

It's simple. When it comes to parenthood, a woman taking good care of her children is the standard. If a man does it, he's dad of the year. One the other end, women who don't have kids are mean career ladies, while men are considerate bachelors looking for the right girl, living the high live ... well, them boys will always be boys, hyuk, hyuk.

So back where have we's. Douchebags, yes. Sure, I'll always keep the somewhat sexist connotation in mind whenever I hear that word being thrown around (but not by me, because that is sooooo 2006). Doesn't mean I'm gonna correct that cute boy who's working on his B.A in Poli-Sci everytime he calls the head server a douche for not letting him going home early to study for next day's exam during a closing shift though, no ma'am.

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